marriage? i must be cranky!

hhhmmmmmmmmffffffffffffff.... come on magic fingers, think of something to blog about. how about why people find it so necessary to get married these days? before you go judging me, talking about how i must be an old woman who's been burned one too many times by love and now i like to knit and sip cocoa with my eighteen cats gathered around, guess again! i'm in a very loving, happy, committed relationship of three and a half years. i feel like you could just go ahead and remove that happy and loving part if we were to say... tie the knot.





don't get me wrong. i do want to be married someday. i've never been anti-marriage. since i was very young though, i said i wouldn't get married until i was 27. why? no idea. just my lucky number for marriage i guess. so really i'm just bitching about all the youngsters that get married.





just look at the stats. you are more likely to get divorced if you marry in your early twenties or before. do i know people who have been married young in life? yes. are they still married? two or three years later... yes. can i name a few who have been divorced? yes.





i have been dreaming up a magnificent wedding for awhile now. but with the state of the country and my lack of funds, i've been thinking. is it a ceremony binding two lives together, forever, through love or is it a huge function to prove your status. get glammed up and show to your peers just how much you are worth? i would gladly marry brett in a pig farm (it would not be my first choice, but i still would).





i just want people to stop rushing everything. take a second. friggin' breathe. is this the person you want to wake up to for the next 50+ years? or did you both happen to be at the right place and at the right time? do you REALLY know each other? do you make each other GROW? are you in it as a TEAM or is it his/her bullshit?





on a semi-related subject... *stolen from brett* why do you have to have a license to hunt/fish/drive but anyone can have children? if you can't afford to feed your own mouth, why bring an innocent child into the world? if you're not done being a child yourself, why bring an innocent child into this world? to tie it all together... it is 2008. if you knock a girl up/get knocked up... marriage is not necessarily the best answer. nor is it mandatory. really? your parents would be disappointed? just because you're married, doesn't mean you were abstinent while you were dating (obvi, there's a bun in the oven!).





but i do, do, do want to marry brett someday. and be the mother of his children, someday. all i'm asking is to think with your heads, not your genitals.